Gay Virginity Pledge

Holding Out for that Special Guy

Former NBA player John Amaechi has formally come out of the closet. According to an interview he gave on ESPN he first experienced his true sexuality with a volleyball player while at Penn State. Why is it that when homosexuals find themselves drawn to other men that they feel compelled to act on those impulses? I knew I liked girls by the time I was five. I didn't have to go sleep with girls just to be sure.

Maybe I should have tried that line on the (women) cheerleaders at N.C. State. "Cindy, I've just discovered my sexuality. Can you help me prove that I'm a heterosexual?"

When I was a teenager I decided that I would wait until marriage. Since sexuality is such a special bond that many feel compelled to have it sanctioned by a "civil union" isn't it worth waiting for? Shouldn't a homosexual wait to share that special intimacy with his "soul mate" regardless of government benefit?

I didn't refrain from sex because I wanted to, I refrained because I made a moral decision to refrain. Can't I expect as much from homosexuals? Sure we all make mistakes, but need we ignore them? Certainly we don't need to "celebrate" our mistakes. Hey, I'm all for forgiveness and second chances, but it's hard to forgive someone when he's being made Grand Marshal of the Gay Pride parade because he didn't wait.

I keep waiting to hear the story of a young man who discovers he likes other boys and decides to take a "virginity pledge." He just wants to save himself for that special person with whom he plans on spending the rest of his life. He pledges to complete his college degree before settling down with a lifemate. Perhaps there is someone out there like that. Unfortunately, the homosexuals that the press keep placing before us and lauding as "heroes" always seem to have tales of their first or multiple "encounters" with other men.

Well, I don't think that fornicators or adulterers are worthy of praise just for being heterosexuals, so why can't I disapprove of any gay man who starts off his story with tales of his "activity"?


The Glaring Double Standard Nobody Will Address

I don't approve of hating anybody. I don't "hate" gay people. That is not the issue here. But I would like to look at former NBA star Tim Hardaway's statement that has caused such an uproar:

"I don't like gay people and I don't like to be around gay people. I'm homophobic. I don't like it. It shouldn't be in the world or in the United States."

Imagine if some gay activist said the following:

"I don't like straight people and I don't like to be around straight people. I'm heterophobic. I don't like it. It shouldn't be in the world or in the United States."

Such a statement wouldn't raise an eyebrow. As Bob Dole would say, you know it, I know it and the American people know it. Even the statement "I hate straight people" would cause NBA Commissioner David Stern and the faculties of most American universities to run to sensitivity workshops to find out what they did to deserve such hatred.

What I've written is so obvious that it's hardly worth the bandwidth. It's a waste of time to even type it... but there it is. We know the double standard, we live the double standard, we accept the double standard. Sigh.


Can I Say This Then?

Since I disapprove of fornication and adultery, am I allowed to say that I disapprove of all such activity whether the guilty is gay or straight (or is it "non-gay")?

Can I chastise Ameichi for being "active" in his lifestyle? If we are allowed to be appalled at a heterosexual who is active with 10 partners at a time, can we at least be critical of a gay person who is active with 50 (I'm not saying Ameichi is)? At what point may I be critical of the "gay lifestyle"? I know... sigh... being gay frees one from any moral judgment whatsoever.


He Had Sex With a STRANGER in a PORNO Theater! Hello?

The "hero" in the Tom Hanks movie "Philadelphia" is infected with the AIDS virus after having sex with a stranger in a pornographic gay movie theater. If you missed that, this is the "hero" of the film. Am I allowed to be upset with this activity?

Here is an excerpt from the movie's many court scenes:

Q: What kind of movies do they show there?

Hanks: Gay movies.

Q: Gay pornographic movies?

Hanks: Yes.

Q. Do men have sex with each other in that theater?

Hanks: Some men.

Q. Have you ever had sex with anyone in that theater?

Hanks Yes. Once.

Source: HERE

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Oscar bait! It's the courtroom climax (pardon the pun) of Twelve Angry Men, To KIll a Mockingbird, The Devil and Daniel Webster and Miracle on 34th Street wrapped up in one! What bravery! Only a real hero has sex with strangers in a porno theater!

OK, am I allowed to object to him now or does his homosexuality and AIDS excuse him from any moral judgments? I'd disapprove of a heterosexual going to a porn theater and having sex with a stranger. Pee Wee Herman was vilified for just being in a porn theater. Perhaps he was really just being a hero.

So I'll start to listen to the "gay is just another lifestyle choice" argument when homosexual boys and girls are urged to sign "Virgin Pledges;" when they advertise "Purity Rings" for gay teens; when large groups of gay men start gathering to celebrate monogamy; and when some standard of behavior is accepted as "moral."

For all the complaining and protesting that the "gay clergy" do, I don't believe I've heard any of them calling for abstinence or condemning all sex outside of a monogamous, "civil marriage" setting. Hey, "Bishop" you don't need the state to let you "marry" people. If you believe in monogamous, marriage-only sex, let's hear it. Condemn ALL pre-marital and extra-marital sex.

I don't "celebrate" heterosexual promiscuity. Come to think of it, I don't "celebrate" heterosexual sex at all. I practice it in the bond of marriage and disapprove of any other kind. If I ever fell I certainly wouldn't want a parade for doing so.

Are there any standards of sexual morality in the gay community?

Instead of "celebrating" John Amaechi's announcement, how about disapproving of his college fornication? Let him admit that his college liaison was an immoral choice and that he should have waited for "Mr. Right." Then we can forgive him and move on.

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